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NYT article’s coverage of gang rape was careless

Last week the New York Times author James McKinley wrote a story on the gang rape of an 11-year-old girl in Cleveland, Texas. In today’s culture, rape and violence towards women is unfortunately saturating our media, and McKinley’s piece played into the most common errors of reporting rape. 

His article, titled “Vicious Assault Shakes Texas Town” (was it the town that was assaulted? really? no it was a CHILD), not only has concerns about the young men that assaulted the girl, but goes on to almost suggest this attack was the girls fault, and even her mother’s fault for not knowing where her daughter is at all times (why was there no mention of the girl’s father?).

Classic victim blaming excerpt from the article:

Residents in the neighborhood where the abandoned trailer stands — known as the Quarters — said the victim had been visiting various friends there for months. They said she dressed older than her age, wearing makeup and fashions more appropriate to a woman in her 20s. She would hang out with teenage boys at a playground, some said.

“Where was her mother? What was her mother thinking?” said Ms. Harrison, one of a handful of neighbors who would speak on the record. “How can you have an 11-year-old child missing down in the Quarters?” 

It is appalling that Times would allow such an article to be published. But it is yet another example of the rape narrative in our movies, tv shows, and language (“Dude, that test raped me!”) that is replacing the horror of rape with drama, victim blaming, and carelessness.

What’s more this article on “The Official Douche Roni Weiss Blog” suggests that in fact the responsibility of the victim is to be taken into account – that if women didn’t walk down dark alleys alone or kept pepper spray with them, they wouldn’t be attacked.

No. 

Women get raped in bikinis and buquas, drunk or sober, in a dark alley or not – the problem is NOT the preparedness of the women against attacks, but the fact that rapists are present. As one rape survivor says,

“Left to my own devices, I never would have been raped. The rapist was really the key component to the whole thing. I was sober; hardly scantily clad (another phrase appearing once in the article), I was wearing sweatpants and an oversized t-shirt; I was at home; my sexual history was, literally, nonexistent—I was a virgin; I struggled; I said no. There have been times since when I have been walking home, alone, after a few drinks, wearing something that might have shown a bit of leg or cleavage, and I wasn’t raped. The difference was not in what I was doing. The difference was the presence of a rapist.”

But back to the main idea of the depiction of rape in the media.

As Roxane Gay puts it, “The way we currently represent rape, in books, in newspapers, on television, on the silver screen, often allows us to ignore the material realities of rape, the impact of rape, the meaning of rape.”

Our language and use of language effects our reality. As journalists, writers, and consumers of media we need to do a better job of treating sexual assault crimes and rape more carefully and consciously.

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Well, I like the sound of that

Subversion: a systematic attempt to overthrow or undermine a government or political system by persons working secretly from within

I was reading Sex and the Fat Girl: The Beauty Industrial Complex and You, which prompted me to look “subversive” up.

Good article. Good word.

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Don’t be fooled by Washington State “pregnancy centers”: As if we needed another reason to love Planned Parenthood

This week’s Stranger, a Seattle weekly, ran a compelling story on pregnancy centers in Washington state. Reporter Cienna Madrid  visited the Christian run centers, signing up for pregnancy tests and experiencing them first hand.

The pregnancy centers often offer free baby clothes, diaper services and parenting classes, which are helpful –  but these centers are also misleading. They advertise free pregnancy tests and call themselves “medical clinics”, when really:

 “They’re largely staffed by volunteers, not nurses or doctors, and their services are far from comprehensive. Some of the centers offer sexually transmitted infection testing or ultrasounds (no diagnostic analysis, just moody pictures of your insides) but no other medical care. None of them provide information about or access to birth control or condoms (just abstinence and Jesus). When you visit their websites or call to make an appointment, it’s rarely made clear that these are Christian organizations. Based on anecdotal evidence, only occasionally do they voluntarily disclose before appointments that they’re opposed to abortion and won’t refer women to providers who offer those services.”

The past few years Washington women’s advocacy groups have lobbied to pass a bill that would “would make it clear to women what services these centers do—and don’t—provide.” The bill would also require the centers to inform patients that they have religious affiliation, they don’t provide medical care, and they oppose any birth control that’s not abstinance. Since they aren’t medically licensed, the information you give them isn’t protected by HIPPA laws. Also they will not refer you for an abortion.

Religious activists continue to organize every year to block the bill, basing their argument on free speech and claiming the bill goes too far.

                                          

The article is full of information and important not to just those in Washington State, but all over the country. I’m sure “medical clinics” like these are cropping up everywhere. Spread the word.

What really resonated with me were the closing remarks of the story – – that a frightened, possibly pregnant woman in this situation would be very vulnerable, and “clinics” like these may pressure or shame her to make an ill-informed decision.

We can’t let this happen. This bill must pass so these pregnancy centers give full disclosure of their agenda to women looking for help.

Just another reason why we all must appreciate and support Planned Parenthood.
                  

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Iowa teen boy refuses to wrestle against girl: Should we respect his decision?

Joel Northrup refused to compete against Cassy Herkelman in the high school state tournament today, claiming it goes against his religious beliefs.  Northrup, a home schooled sophmore and stand-out wrestler, defaulted on their match at the Wells Fargo Arena during the tournament in Des Moines, Iowa.

As the AP reports, “Northrup’s father, Jamie Northrup, is a minister in the Believers in Grace Fellowship, an independent Pentecostal church in Marion that believes young men and women shouldn’t touch in a “familiar way,” said Bill Randles, the church’s pastor.”

I think how both Northrup and the Herkelmans handled the now highly publicized situation is appropriate. We can’t totally blast this kid for pulling himself out of a match due to religious/personal beliefs. In his statement he has respect for Herkelman and Black, which kept me from being completely irritated by the whole thing.

But if he really respected Herkelman (as he claims), wouldn’t he would give her the recognition as an athlete and compete against her?

Wrestling is, after all, one of the few sports where opponents have to meet weight requirements when matched up. Many people posting out there
on the Internet are wrapped up in the whole notion that Northrup would hurt her, and that in fact he was being “chivalrous” by defaulting. Please. If a anyone is putting his or her self out there to compete (and meets the weight/ skill requirements), being scared to hurt them is insulting.

As polite as this Northrup kid is, really, he seems to be a little misguided.It appears he is worried about being in close proximity to a female for religious reasons. Which is a reflection of heteronormative thinking by his church. I mean, if he was gay, then would wrestling boys be inappropriate based on this logic?

Good luck in the rest of the tourney, Cassy Herkelman!

Update: Herkelman lost to Matt Victor from Indianola in their 112-pound quarter-final contest.

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Grandmother From Iowa For Gay Marriage

An 80 year old grandmother, Jean Argus, from Iowa goes viral with a touching speech in support of gay marriage.

 

Her video was inspired by a 19 year old Iowan’s speech in front of Iowa state legislatures in early February where he told the anti-gay Iowa House about his two moms. 

“You are telling fellow Iowans that some of you are second class citizens that do not have the right to marry the person you love,” says Zach Wahls near the close of his powerful speech.

 

Iowa legalized gay marriage in 2009. Since, Republican Iowans have been fighting to pass amendments to take down the ruling. On Feb 1, 2011 the Iowa House passed a resolution proposing an amendment that would specify marriage as only between a man and a woman as recognized by the state of Iowa. 

 

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